Over the next two weeks we will be looking at our school value of Ngākau Aroha, in particular - sharing and including. Children learn a lot from just watching what their parents do. When you model good sharing and turn-taking in your family, it gives your children a great example to follow.

Children also need opportunities to learn about and practise sharing. Of course there are lots of ways to encourage sharing at school, as well as in everyday life: Point out good sharing in others. You can say things like, ‘Your friend was sharing her toys really well. That was very kind of her/him’. When you see your child trying to share or take turns, make sure you give lots of praise and attention. For example, ‘I liked the way you let Sam play with your train. Great sharing!’ Play games with your child that involve sharing and turn-taking. Talk your child through the steps, saying things like, ‘Now it’s my turn to build the tower, then it’s your turn. 

Although it’s important to share, it’s OK for children to have some toys that they keep just for themselves. It’s a good idea to put away these special toys when other children come to play at your house. This can help you avoid problems with sharing. Most children need practice and support to develop this skill. If your child doesn’t share well, you can try practising together at home and talking about what you’re doing. For example, ‘Let’s share this banana. You can have some, and I can have some’. There’s no reason to avoid playdates if your child has trouble sharing. Instead, use them as a chance to help your child learn and practise. You could stay nearby and encourage them so they doesn’t forget to share. When they do try to share, you can say exactly what they did well and how proud you are.