Early communicators often use gestures, sounds, eye gaze, and other behaviours to get their message across. The tips below can help them build on these skills—learning why we communicate, what to say, what it means, and how to say it.

Use what you know, say what you see:
Notice how your child communicates through actions or body language. If they push food away, they might be saying “no thanks” or “I’m finished.” You can help by saying or signing words like “no”, “finished”, or “don’t like it”, and pointing to symbols. (See Aided Language Modeling below.)

Pause and wait:
During games or routines your child enjoys (like tickles!), pause for a moment. Watch how they react. If they seem to want more, say “more!” and do it again. Waiting gives your child space to join in!

Imitate to connect:
Copying your child’s sounds, movements, or facial expressions shows you’re tuned in. It helps build connection, turn-taking, and shared attention—key building blocks for communication. This is a big part of an approach called Intensive Interaction. We often use the principles of Intensive Interaction at Pītau-Allenvale. You can learn to use them too! Start with the handy guide attached.

Use fun, exciting language:
Pair favourite activities with expressive words and gestures. Think: “wow!”, “uh oh!”, “go!”, or “just joking!” If a toy car splashes into water—say “wow!” If it falls—“uh oh!”. It keeps things fun and helps your child link actions to language.

Keep visuals close:
AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) helps support understanding and expression. Wear visuals on a lanyard, keep a core board handy, and use them throughout the day. The easier they are to access, the more your child can join in!

Model what you want to see:
Use Aided Language Modeling by pointing to words on a board or device while you talk. For example, while saying “you want more?”, you also point to “more” on the board. Over time, your child may start doing the same!

Download the printable tips sheet attached to this article.
Want to know more? Chat with your young person’s SLT or email me: michelle.king@allenvale.school.nz.

Let’s keep building communication—together