Often we listen to a conversation with our children without really hearing them. Life gets so busy and with so much going on around us, we can often miss opportunities to connect with our own children which can unintentionally lead them to feel disrespected.
For at least 10 minutes twice a week spend time with your child/children and practice ‘Active Listening’. This exercise helps you express active interest in what the other person has to say and makes them feel heard. It can also help listeners better understand others' perspectives.
Some ways to help you become a better active listener:
Ask questions such as,” When you say ____, do you mean____?”
Paraphrase after the other person has finished, this could include statements like, “ What I hear you saying is……., “ “It sounds like…….., “ and “If I understand you right…”
Express empathy, you might respond, “I can sense that you’re feeling frustrated,” and even “I can understand how that situation could cause frustration.”
Avoid judgment. Try not to interrupt with counter-arguments.
Take turns